Our heavenly Father greatly desires our children to know and love Him. As earthly parents, we want the best for our children, and the best we can give them is a full view of God in all His beautiful person and wonderful works. We should glorify God—“make God big”—in the eyes of our children and encourage them to respond in reverence and love.
How do we do this? Thankfully God has provided to us His own written Word, whereby He “
has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue, by which have been given to us exceedingly great and precious promises” (2 Peter 1:3–4). Our gracious God has revealed Himself in the pages of Scripture, written down for us as the infallible record of His person and work in history. In the Bible we learn truth—“what really is”—about God, ourselves, the world He made, the mess we’re in as sinners in a cursed world, His provision of the Savior Jesus Christ, the promise of salvation for those who believe, and much more.
How Family Worship Helps Our Child Training
As parents, we want to help our children interpret life from God’s perspective. In this way we must have a God-centered worldview based solidly in His Word. So we must teach and meditate upon the Scriptures constantly, both individually and as a family.
Many people refer to this practice as “family worship”—the regular practice of devotion to God in Scripture reading, praying, and singing, for the purpose of glorifying God and growing in His grace. The apostle Paul noted that this was Timothy’s experience: “
from childhood you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus” (2 Timothy 3:15).
Family worship flows from hearts that love God. It is to be the practical expression of consciously living in the presence of the Lord. As such there is no one correct formula, setting, or schedule. Rather it should be a natural part of our families’ lives, as we ask ourselves, “How can I speak God’s Word into this moment? What do my children need to know about God in this situation?”
Within the greater context of living at all times for God’s glory, there should also be regular, formal times in which we gather our families together for Bible reading, prayer, and singing. Let us be sure to read the Bible and not just books about the Bible, honoring the Scripture as our God-given authority, our source book. We may also intersperse our reading with questions to encourage comprehension like, “What does this passage say? What does it mean? How must we respond?” We should pray also, blessing God, confessing our sins to Him, giving thanks to Him, and asking Him to work in specific ways. We may also want to sing “
psalms and hymns and spiritual songs” as a further means of “
teaching and admonishing one another” (Colossians 3:16). This “agenda” is not difficult but it can result in eternal dividends.
Family Worship Was Crucial for the Nation Israel
At the inauguration of the nation Israel, just before they were to cross over into the Promised Land, God explicitly commanded the parents (and grandparents) to carefully teach His Word to the next generation:
“Now this is the commandment, and these are the statutes and judgments which the Lord your God has commanded to teach you, that you may observe them in the land which you are crossing over to possess, that you may fear the Lord your God, to keep all His statutes and His commandments which I command you, you and your son and your grandson, all the days of your life, and that your days may be prolonged. Therefore hear, O Israel, and be careful to observe it, that it may be well with you, and that you may multiply greatly as the Lord God of your fathers has promised you—‘a land flowing with milk and honey.’
Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one! You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.
And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” (Deuteronomy 6:1–9)
Here we see God’s plan that multiple succeeding generations would learn and observe His commandments as the practice of devotion to Him. Such a great work had to start with the individual (most of the pronouns “
you” are singular), as each person would love God wholly and hold God’s Word in his heart. Such a heart would then overflow in daily practice and conversation, teaching God’s Word to the next generation at various times and situations of life.
These informal, everyday conversations centering on God serve to counteract the worldly teaching that comes through so many different forms of media. So much of television, music, websites, books, magazines, and the rest advance a godless worldview. As parents we must wisely restrict the access such media has in our homes, and perhaps more importantly, help our children (especially as they mature) to discern truth from error while interacting with these resources. For example, when a children’s cartoon refers to “millions of years,” we should take the opportunity to present the truth of Scripture and God’s creation in six literal days. Let us evaluate our media consumption and commit to bringing God’s Word to bear on these powerful teaching venues.
Family Worship Is Just as Necessary for the Church
It is the parents’ primary responsibility to rear children, with the father taking the lead.A similar expression of this important parental task appears in Paul’s letter to the Ephesian church. There he commands fathers in particular, “
do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4). We see here that it is the parents’ primary responsibility to rear children, with the father taking the lead. Others in the extended family and church will necessarily assist in this process, but the weight of responsibility rests with the parents.
Fathers are not to “
provoke” their “
children to anger.” Unfortunately there are so many ways that fathers can do this, like scolding them too frequently, teasing them inordinately, making promises and then not keeping them, being violent, and withholding love and praise. The parallel passage in Paul’s letter to the Colossian church warns fathers against discouraging, disheartening, or otherwise exasperating their children (Colossians 3:21).
In contrast, Paul says that fathers are specifically to “
bring them up,” that is, to nourish and feed their children, providing them with tender care so that they would grow to godly maturity. Fathers are to do this by two explicit activities: “
training and admonition.” First, fathers must “train” their children, comprehensively teaching them truth (cf. Acts 7:22; 22:3; Titus 2:12). Sometimes called “formative discipline,” this happens both by verbal instruction and by personal example (cf. Hebrews 12:7). Second, in what may be called “corrective discipline,” fathers must “admonish” their children, verbally correcting specific areas of their children’s lives that are out of line with the truth they know. In both instances the Scripture must be central, as Paul affirmed:
All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God [and our children!] may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work. (2 Timothy 3:16–17)
The Importance of Our Family Worship
Many factors challenge our consistency in family worship. Perhaps we fail to plan when to meet, what Scriptures to read, how to pray, and what songs to sing. But many helps are available to assist us in this matter, like the Answers Bible Curriculum.
Perhaps we fear we are ill-equipped to lead family worship. Surely this is understandable, but it is not permissible. If you think you are not equipped to lead, then strive to be better equipped! When your children ask you questions that you don’t know how to answer, it is best simply to say, “I don’t know, but I will find the answer.” Then go study and report to them what you find. (See below for some recommended study resources.)
Another factor is that we are typically not consistent, plodding kind of people. We do get passionate and excited—for a short while. Throw into the mix busy, irregular, or even tumultuous schedules and it’s no wonder we often fail in leading family worship. Nevertheless, we must persevere, for the danger of failure is great!
But exhort one another daily, while it is called “Today,” lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin. (Hebrews 3:13)
While considering all these factors, ultimately we must acknowledge that the root problem and solution is our personal devotion to God: How must we grow in love, affection, and worship of our great God? The truth is that we do what is important to us, for good or for bad. Let us prove our love of God in the practice of our devotion, particularly in family worship.
Be Faithful in This, and May the Lord Bless Your Labor
Scripture should always be in our minds and ready to be enacted by our hands. Let us prove our love of God and our children as we strive to be more faithful in ministering the Word of God to one another, so God receives the glory and we grow in grace. May we pray as Moses prayed, “
Let Your work appear to your servants, and Your glory to their children” (Psalm 90:16).