No. 1841-31:277. A Sermon Delivered On Lord’s Day Morning, May 17, 1885, By C. H. Spurgeon, At The Metropolitan Tabernacle, Newington.
Forbearing each other, and forgiving each other, if any man has a quarrel against anyone: even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. {Col 3:13}
1. To whom is this exhortation addressed? The apostle speaks like this in the twelfth verse: “Elect of God, holy and beloved.” Here are three particulars. They are, first of all, “elect of God,” that is to say, chosen according to his eternal purpose. They are made choice ones by being so chosen. Next, they are sanctified by the Spirit of God, and are, therefore, called “holy”: this holiness appertaining to their persons and their pursuits, their calling and their conduct. When the Spirit of God has fully done his work he sheds abroad in their hearts the love of God, so that they really feel themselves to be “beloved.” To remain in the love of God is the fruit of election, and the result of holiness. If any of you can with humble confidence claim these three titles, “elect of God, holy and beloved,” you are among the most favoured of all mankind: the Father has made a special choice of you, his Holy Spirit has accomplished a special work in you, and you possess within your souls the special joy of living in the love of God. “Elect of God, holy and beloved”: it is as you enjoy these three things that you will find it easy to carry out the precept which is now set before you, “Forbearing each other, and forgiving each other, if any man has a quarrel against anyone: even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.”
2. Notice in our text, before we proceed to the full discussion of it, what an honour this Scripture puts upon our Lord Jesus Christ. In Eph 4:32 a similar precept is placed in a rather different form; for it runs like this: “Even as God for Christ’s sake has forgiven you.” Here, as if to show the true and proper equality of the Christ with God, it is written, “Even as Christ forgave you.” In the 1881 English Revised Version they read, “even as the Lord forgave you”; but they place in the margin, “Many ancient authorities read Christ.” In that case we see that Lord and Christ were interchangeable terms when those ancient authorities were alive. No one can forgive sins except God. Only he forgives against whom the sin is committed. Sin, therefore, being against Christ, and Christ being able to forgive it, we see that he is exalted on high to give remission of sins. He shares in the high and royal prerogative of God, since he is able to forgive sin.
3. Does not this expression seem to say that albeit the apostle and other inspired writers had many things to write about, yet one thing was always on their hearts, namely, to honour their Lord? Is this not a proof of how thoroughly they were under the influence of the Spirit of God, of whom Jesus said, “He shall glorify me?” Whatever he is teaching, whatever duty he is enforcing, whatever promise he is delivering, he takes care to do it so that the Lord Jesus Christ is exalted in the hearts of his people by it. Let us in our hearts adore the anointed One, Christ Jesus of Nazareth, the Son of God, and never let us hesitate to honour the Son even as we honour the Father. Let us as penitents adore the pardoning Saviour, since he has power to forgive sins, and has cleansed the myriads of his redeemed from all their iniquities.
4. But, brethren, while this gives glory to Christ, what a weight is lent to the precept, since it is supported by the example and the authority of our divine Lord: “Even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.” What a model is set before us! How perfect is that spirit of love which we are to reveal! Even as Christ forgave us we are told to forgive others; what nobler pattern could have been chosen? Surely he who trifles with this precept, or thinks it one that is left to our option to obey or to neglect, cannot know correctly the dignity of the Christ in whose pierced hand this law is held out before our eyes. Depend on it, this command so wondrously linked with the Person of the pardoning Christ is of no common importance. If the law given by Moses was so solemnly binding, what shall we say concerning this law which is embodied in the life of the Lord Jesus? Surely I shall scarcely need to plead with you, who are his disciples, that you give your heart’s best attention to such teaching. Your Lord himself stands before you; you remember how he forgave you all your trespasses, and I am sure you will give earnest heed to his exhortation to forgive. May the dovelike Spirit now brood over this assembly, and create love in all our hearts.
5. Two things are to be done. First, let us study the pattern of forgiveness set before us here; and then, secondly, let us copy it for ourselves in our forgiveness of those who trespass against us.
6. I. Carefully STUDY THE PATTERN OF FORGIVENESS set before us in the text. “Even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.”
7. What is this forgiveness of Christ? You know how he exhibited it in his daily life. He was much tried, but he was never provoked to wrath. Both by friends and by enemies he was made to suffer, yet he neither accused the one nor the other to his great Father. He never reviled those who reviled him, but patiently yielded to their malice, giving his back to the smiters, and his cheeks to those who pulled out the hair. He gently rebuked his disciples, but he never spoke to them in anger. A life of forgiveness was crowned by his dying prayer for his persecutors, “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.” He loved his enemies; he lived for his enemies; he died for his enemies. He was incarnate gentleness, the mirror and paragon of forgiveness.
8. Observe, that he forgave offences most great and grievous. It was a horrible thing that when the Lord Jesus came into the world moved by pure love, he was not welcomed, but Herod sought to kill the young child. Afterwards, when he appeared publicly among men, the Jews took up stones to stone him. He was treated with contempt; his miracles were ascribed to the devil, and his holy and unspotted character was maligned by his being called a drunken man and a wine-bibber. He was the first-born of the lord of the vineyard; but when the husbandmen saw him, they said, “This is the heir; come, let us kill him, and the inheritance shall be ours.” You know with what scornful cruelty they treated him in the hour of his passion. What could the malice of hell have invented more contemptuous and cruel than what men used towards the Well-Beloved? Had he been the basest of beings, his sufferings would have been too cruel. Men did all they could against him. Do not say that you have never transgressed like this. Oh, sirs, we also have crucified him; for our sins were laid upon him by Jehovah. We also must confess, “He was despised, and we did not esteem him.” There was a time when we, who are now his followers, once “hid as it were our faces from him.” He called us, but we gave him no answer; he wooed us, but we were blind to his beauties. We can never remember this without deep emotions of regret. We used no other friend so badly. We crucified him and killed him, as far as we were able to do it, by our rejection of his love; and yet he has forgiven us. He is ready to forgive all such who seek his face. Oh, the splendour of that love which blots out sins like ours! What a flood of grace is this which rises above the tops of the mountains of our sins, and covers them for ever. It does not matter how black or crimson our transgressions may have been, the moment we come to Jesus he makes us whiter than snow. He puts away the most horrible of offences, the most glaring of transgressions, in a moment; he says, “I forgive you; go, and sin no more”; and we, then and there, receive a perfect pardon. I wish that all of you who have never sought that grace would be induced by this blessed fact to come with all your sins, and receive immediate absolution from the hand of your Lord.
9. Remember, also, to increase your wonderment at his forgiveness, that these offences which were committed against Christ were altogether deliberate and unprovoked. He could demand of his adversaries, “For which of those works do you stone me?” Towards no man had he acted unjustly or even harshly. He had been all tenderness and lowliness in every place towards all kinds of men, and yet certain men became incensed against him because of his goodness. Did they refuse to love him because he was altogether lovely? Did they despise him because he was so truly great? Such is the depravity of the human heart that the very virtues of Christ provoked the hostility of men. What has my Lord Christ ever done against any of you? Why do you refuse him? I have heard many a man say, “If I had done anything whatever to provoke this ill will I could account for it, but they persecute me wrongfully.” It was preeminently so in the case of our Lord, who says in the Psalm, “They hated me without a cause.” Yet he forgave this intentional malice. He continues to forgive such causeless wrong. With his own blood he blots out horrible insults against his person, his people, his gospel, and his love. Even you who oppose his kingdom and refuse his service, shall be at once forgiven if you will bow your hearts before him and accept that rich mercy which his hand is so ready to bestow. See what a pattern is here of the forgiving of the greatest and most malicious offences! How can hatred live in the presence of such love?
10. Christ has shown this pardon to the most unworthy people. Of all whom he forgave when he was here below no one deserved such kindness; in fact, to speak of deserving forgiveness is a contradiction in terms. Certainly in me, and I have no doubt in you, my brothers and sisters, who have tasted of his infinite mercy, there was no pretence of claim to his mercy in our cases. If he had left us in our sin, if he had passed us by and allowed us to perish, what complaint could we have brought against him? Since he loved us and forgave us, it must have been because of something within himself; it could not have been from anything in us. We are unworthy, but he is gracious; and herein he teaches us to pardon the most provoking and worthless of those who trespass against us.
11. May it never be forgotten that he always had the power to have executed vengeance upon any one of us if he had pleased to do so. Some men pardon because they cannot punish; they are too weak to execute vengeance, and therefore they refrain from it. Half the forgiveness in the world comes rather from a feeble hand than from a forgiving heart; but the Christ could have crushed his adversaries in a moment if he had willed it, and yet he freely forgave. When they said, “Come down from the cross,” — suppose he had instantly loosened the nails and leaped among them, where would they have been? They would have begged the rocks to fall upon them, and the mountains to cover them from his face, if he had only revealed the glory of his power: but he was not provoked to leave the cross, or to break the silence of his passion by so much as a rebuke. Mercy was stored up like honey in his heart, and pardon dropped its sweetness from his lip. The Lord has been very longsuffering with us when a breath might have destroyed us. We might easily have been destroyed in accidents which befell us, or we might have died in our various sicknesses, and so have sunk to the lowest hell; but instead of killing us, our Lord even intervened to spare us, — to spare us when our life was rebellion. When he could so easily have blotted out our lives, he did not do so, but in boundless mercy blotted out our sins. Let us magnify his amazing grace, and imitate it in our lives.
12. I want you for a moment to consider the question, How did he forgive? The manner of our Lord’s forgiveness is as noteworthy as the pardon itself. The Lord Jesus came and pardoned us when that act of grace was unsolicited: before we had thought of mercy he had thoughts of mercy towards us. I remember reading in one of our magazines a story of a city missionary who discovered a poor girl who had wandered from the ways of virtue, and sought to restore her to a better life. He spoke with her until she became somewhat tender of heart. He enquired about her family, and learned that she had once enjoyed a happy home, and had known a tender father’s love. “But he would never look at me now,” she said; “I am sure he never would; I am such a degraded creature that I could not venture near his door.” “Have you never written to him?” “No, I could not write to him, it would be of no use; I could not expect him to send me an answer, and it would break my heart to be refused.” “We will try,” said the good man, “we will write to him.” He wrote to the father, and the next post brought back an answer, with the word, “Immediate,” written upon the envelope. The sum of the letter enclosed within was, “Ready to forgive.” She was taken to her father; she was soon locked in his embrace; all was forgiven; the wanderer was restored. Notice, that her father had been praying for her night and day ever since she left his home, and he had longed to receive her to his home again. Her seeking his forgiveness did not cause it; it was in his heart long before; and no doubt it was because of his cries and tears that God in mercy touched his girl’s heart, and brought her home. Oh sinner, before you think of Christ he has thoughts of love towards you. He says, “I have blotted out, as a thick cloud, your transgressions, and, as a cloud, your sins: return to me; for I have redeemed you.” The forgiveness is first, and the returning to the Lord is urged as a result of that forgiveness. Pardon is not first in the matter of our personal experience, but it is first as a matter of fact with God. Oh! the mercy of the Lord Christ, that before we know our sin he has made atonement for it by his own precious blood.
13. The Lord Jesus Christ is to be held up as an example of pardoning love for the true and hearty way in which he forgives sin. Forgiveness when it comes from human lips in a measured, studied phrase, is not worth the having; for the heart is not in it, or it would be more free and joyful. The Lord Jesus Christ absolves sinners with all his heart: he never acts in a cold, formal manner. Never does he outwardly forgive and in secret retain his wrath; but wholly, entirely, joyfully, he puts away the sin of those whom he forgives, and puts it away for ever. When he forgives he forgives all of our faults, follies, failures, and offences. There is a certain solidarity about sin, so that it makes up one lump. I read the other day of a certain theologian speaking of Christ having put away original sin while he left actual sin. Nonsense! Sin is one and indivisible. Iniquity is not to be done up in separate parcels. The sin, the iniquity of men, is spoken of in the Bible as one thing. Although we sin multitudes of times the various streams all flow into one sea of evil: when sin is forgiven all sin is put away — not a shred, nor fragment, nor particle remains. The Lord Jesus drowns all the hosts of sin in the depths of the sea, and all of our guilt is swallowed up for ever. This is great forgiveness, indeed. Glory be to him who gives it! Let us follow him in his truth and heartiness.
14. This forgiveness, again, is given by the Lord Jesus Christ in the most complete possible manner. He keeps no back reckonings; he retains no reserves of anger. He so forgives that he forgets. That is the wonder of it: he says, “I will not remember your sins.” He casts them behind his back; they are wholly and completely gone from his observation or regard. Alas, such is poor human nature, that even fathers, when they have forgiven a wayward child, will, perhaps, throw the offence in his teeth years later, when he offends again; but it is never so with Christ. He says, “Your sins shall not be mentioned against you any more for ever.” He has removed the sins of his people in so effective a way that not a whisper concerning them shall ever come from his mouth so as to grieve them. They will themselves remember their sins with deep repentance; but the Lord will never challenge them on account of their past rebellions. Blessed be the name of Christ for such complete forgiveness as this.
15. The Lord Jesus Christ forgives his people in a continuous manner. He forgave us long ago: he still forgives us. He does not forgive and afterwards accuse; his forgiveness is eternal; it is not a reprieve he gives to you, believing ones, but a free pardon, under the King’s hand and seal, which shall effectively protect you from accusation and punishment. “ ‘In those days, and in that time,’ says the Lord, ‘the iniquity of Israel shall be sought for, and there shall be none; and the sins of Judah, and they shall not be found: for I will pardon those whom I reserve.’ ” He has finished transgression, made an end of sin, and brought in everlasting righteousness. Send to hell a pardoned sinner! It would be a contradiction to the very nature of God. Condemn those for whom Jesus died! Why, the apostle mentions that death as a conclusive answer to the challenge, “Who is he who condemns? It is Christ who died, yes rather, who is risen again, who is even at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us.” How shall he intercede for us and yet accuse us? It is impossible for Christ to be both Redeemer and Condemner to the same people. So perfect is his pardon that our sin has ceased to be; he has put away sin for ever by the sacrifice of himself.
16. I greatly admire the very gracious way in which that pardon is given. Some people offer forgiveness in an ungracious way; they make it appear that they are coming down from such awful heights when they forgive a fellow mortal. In great dignity they march down in state from their own splendid innocence to the poor brother who has done them a wrong; as good as saying, “I will condescend to do this, though it is an awful stoop for such an angelic being as I am.” You never feel that about Christ, for he places his pardon down so low that he seems to say, “Receive my mercy, I beg you to receive it.” He speaks as if he were favoured by a sinner’s accepting his forgiveness. He humbles himself, and never scalds a sinner with scornful pity. Though the Christ condescends more than all the condescension of all men put together, “for worms were never raised so high above their lowliest fellow worms,” yet the condescension is so real and royal that there is no ostentation in it; he is to the manner born; he condescends naturally, like condescension’s own self. Some are most proud when they stoop; but Jesus graciously seems to put himself on a level with us, indeed, and even to go lower than we are, so that he may lift us up. Admire as much the way in which Christ forgives as the forgiveness which he bestows. It breaks my heart to think what a loving Christ he was to me when I sought his forgiveness. Truly “He gives liberally, and does not upbraid”: he frowned and thundered when I looked to my own righteousness, but when I turned to his gospel of free grace I had from him not even a harsh word, but he was all love and tenderness to me, the chief of sinners.
17. Above all, the greatness of his forgiveness is seen in the fact that the offence had brought great trouble into the world, and he bore that trouble. The sinner, by his wrong-doing, had subjected himself to great loss and calamity. Now, when we forgive a person who has done us a wrong, we say, “I freely forgive you, but you have involved yourself in certain consequences which you will have to bear, and out of these I cannot help you.” Our blessed Master seemed to say, “Sinner, you have sinned yourself under the curse of God, you have sinned yourself into misery and into death, and as the proof that I freely forgive you I will take all this suffering and this death upon myself. You have done the wrong deliberately and wickedly, but I will bear the consequences. You have knotted the whips, they shall scourge my shoulders; you have sharpened the nails, they shall pierce my hands and feet; you have put yourself under curse and penalty, I will bear the curse of death so that you may be free.” Was there ever mercy like this? Do not all who know this love accept it gladly? Sinner, do you not know this? Have you never heard about it? Do you not know that the Lord, even Jesus, the Son of God, is able to forgive you all your trespasses, that it will be a joy to his heart to do so, and to do it at once? Oh, that before that clock shall strike again you may be able to say, “There is therefore now no condemnation, for Christ has put away my sin.” This is not according to the manner of men; it is Godlike: it is a sure proof that Jesus is the Son of God, for who could act like this except One who is himself the Son of God?
18. So I have set before you, in my poor way, this great forgiveness, and the manner of it. I trust you have had an experience of it. Assuredly we all need such forgiveness: do any of you deny it? May the Holy Spirit open your blind eyes, and melt your hard hearts. According to the text, those who have received pardon know that they have it; for Paul speaks positively, — “Even as Christ forgave you”; as if it were a matter of fact well known among the people of God. There is a theory abroad that we may be forgiven and not know it; that Jesus may forgive, and we may never discover it until we come to our dying moments. That is a wretched kind of gospel; but by the true gospel we may know we are forgiven, and be sure of it; surer than if we saw, written by the autograph of Christ, the words — “I have forgiven you.” The eyes may deceive, but the witness of the Spirit of God within the heart can never delude us. If you believe that Jesus is the Christ, and if you are resting only on him, your sins, which are many, are forgiven you; “for the blood of Jesus Christ, his Son, cleanses us from all sin.” In knowing that we are forgiven by Christ, let us be clear and decided in our forgiveness of others: not in word only, but in deed and in truth, let us exhibit a forbearing spirit.
19. II. You see your example. Our second word is, COPY IT FOR YOURSELVES. If the Holy Spirit enables you to write according to this copy, you will have the approval of the Lord resting upon you. See how large and clear the letters are! It will be a great success if you can reproduce them. “Even as Christ forgave you”; the imitation should be as exact as possible. Mark the “even,” and the “so,” and endeavour to keep in step with your gracious Lord.
20. Notice, however, in the text, that this precept concerning the imitation of Christ in forgiveness is universally applicable. The text is not long, but see how unqualified is its range. “Forbearing each other, and forgiving each other, if any man has a quarrel against anyone.” You see it is not said that superiors are to forgive inferiors; or, on the other hand, that the less are to forgive the greater; but the circle of the command includes the whole: it is, “forbearing each other.” The rich are to be forbearing to the poor, the poor are to be forbearing to the rich; the elderly man is to forgive the junior for his imprudence, the junior is to bear with the petulance and slowness of the elder. It is an all-round business, implying that one of these days I shall have to forgive you, and you will have to forgive me. Personally, I tax your forbearance to put up with me; and I need not say that sometimes I need to exercise forbearance towards one and another in so large a church. We all have our own angles and edges, and these are apt to come into contact with others. We are all pieces of one puzzle, and shall fit in with each other one day, and make a complete whole; yet just now we seem misshapen and unfitting. Our corners need to be rounded. Sometimes they are chipped off by collision with someone else; and that is not comfortable for the person with whom we collide. Like pebbles in the river of the water of life, we are wearing each other round and smooth, as the living current brings us into communion: everyone is polishing and being polished, and in the process it is inevitable that some present inconvenience should be sustained; but no one must mind it, for it is part of a great process by which we shall all come into proper shape, and be made fit for endless fellowship.
21. “Forbearing each other, and forgiving each other”: you see it has two sides. “Ah,” one says, “I cannot understand it; people ought to be far more forbearing towards me.” Just so; but the first point is that you should be forgiving towards them. What numbers of church members think that the duties of a church are all one-sided. “I was ill, and no one came to see me.” “Did you send for anyone to see you?” “No, I did not.” Brother, before you find fault, remember your own fault; you have violated the command, “Is anyone sick among you? let him call for the elders of the church.” “But no one exhibits Christian love,” one says. Is that true of yourself? I have noticed that the man who says that love is dead is usually rather short of love himself. How very different the church looks to different eyes: one sees a thousand virtues to admire, and another a world of evil to expose. One gratefully cries, “When I was ill, the dear brethren came to see me so often that I had even to ask them not to stay very long.” Another grumbles, “I might have laid there a month, and no one would ever have come near me.” We understand the reason for this difference: the tone of the speech is the key to the riddle. As a rule, with what measure we mete it is measured to us again. I do not find Christ’s people to be one half so faulty as I am myself. I meet many Christians whom I think it an honour to know, and commune with; and those of another kind are useful to me as warnings, and as fields for exercising my graces. The forgiveness and the forbearance are needed all around, and we must both give and take. By the sweet love of Jesus, let us not fail in this business.
22. Let me say here that this matter is an absolutely essential one, — this forbearance and this forgiveness are vital. Do not be deceived; God is not mocked: no man is a child of God who does not have a likeness to God; and no man is forgiven who will not himself forgive. In the Middle Ages a certain baron had a feud with another nobleman, and determined to avenge himself for some insult, real or imaginary. His enemy was to pass by the castle with a small retinue, and therefore the baron determined to waylay him and kill him, or, at least, to punish him severely, and exact a ransom. A holy man who lived in the castle begged and entreated the baron to forbear from bloodshed, and make peace; but for some time he pleaded in vain. The baron would not be appeased, but swore that he would be avenged of his adversary. So this godly man begged one favour from him, namely, that he would come with him into the chapel and offer prayer before he sallied out. They knelt together in prayer, and before they rose the saintly man said, “My lord, repeat after me the Lord’s Prayer.” He went on saying word for word, as the other did, until he came to that, “Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us”; but there the good man stopped, and said, “I charge you not to say this unless you really mean it! Do not mock the Lord. You may not go out and fight if you speak to God like this. You will have to appear before God and be judged for your sins, for you will not be forgiven if you do not forgive. Choose, then, either to utter this prayer and forgive, and be saved; or to refuse the prayer, and go out to battle and be lost.” The baron paused and bit his lip, but at last his better spirit prevailed, and he cried, “I cannot renounce my hope of heaven; I cannot renounce my hope of forgiveness; therefore my enemy shall pass by my castle in safety, and I will say, ‘Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.’ ” Do not attempt to deceive God. If you must lie and cheat, practise your impositions upon your fellow men, but do not imagine that you can flatter your Maker or deceive the Omniscient One. If you will not forgive, say so, and expect eternal perdition; but if you profess to be a Christian obey this great and essential precept, and forgive as Christ forgave you. Be honest, be straight with God, for he will be honest and straight with you; but if you cannot and will not forgive, then look forward to a portion with the tormentors; for even the loving Jesus says, “Neither shall my heavenly Father forgive you.”
23. In urging you to this copying of Christ, let me notice that this forgiveness of those who offend against us is gloriously ennobling. We are not asked to perform a duty which will in the least degrade us. Revenge is paltry, forgiveness is great-minded. Was not David infinitely greater than Saul, when he spared his life in the cave, and when he would not strike him as he lay asleep on the battle-field? Did not the king humble himself before David when he perceived his forbearance? If you would be the greatest among men, bear injuries with the greatest gentleness; if you would win the noblest of conquests, subdue yourself. To win a battle is a little thing if it is fought out with sword and gun; but to win it in God’s way, with no weapons but love, and patience, and forgiveness, this is the most glorious of victories. Blessed is that man who is more than a conqueror, because he inflicts no wounds in the conflict, but overcomes evil with good. In the process of such a conquest the warrior is himself a gainer. A nation in fighting, even if it wins the campaign, has to suffer great expense and loss of life; but he who overcomes by love, is the better and stronger man through what he has done. He comes out of the conflict not only victor over his adversary, but victor over sin within himself, and all the more ready for future war against evil. He glorifies God and he becomes strong in grace. Nothing is more glorious than love. Your Master, who is King of kings, set you an example of gaining glory by enduring wrong: if you would be knights of his company, imitate his graciousness.
24. Notice that this imitation of Christ is logically appropriate for you all. Brothers, if Christ has forgiven you, the parable we read just now shows that it is imperative that you should forgive your fellows. If our Lord has forgiven us our ten thousand talents, how can we take our brother by the throat for the hundred pence, and say, “Pay me what you owe?” If we are indeed members of Christ, should we not be like our Head? If we profess to be his servants, are we to pretend to a dignity greater than our Master, who washed his disciples’ feet? If he forgave so freely, how dare we call ourselves his brethren if our spirit is hard and malice lingers within us?
25. I say, to conclude, that this copying of Christ is most forcibly sustained by the example given in the text. We are to forbear and to forgive. “Even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.” I have heard it said “If you pass by every intentional offence, and take no notice of it, you will come to be despised, and regarded as a person of weak spirit: your honour demands vindication.” When Christ forgave you, did his honour suffer by that forgiveness? You transgressed most wickedly, and yet he forgave you; do you regard him as less honourable because of that readiness to forgive offences? Far from it: it is his glory to forgive. The hallelujahs of saints, and the songs of angels are sent up to his throne all the more heartily because of the richness of his grace, and the freeness of his mercy. Dishonour indeed! What pride it is on the part of such poor creatures as we are to talk about our honour! Where is the honour of revenge? It is a dishonourable thing to put yourself on the level of him who injures you. A heathen philosopher used to say, “If a donkey kicks you, is it necessary for the maintenance of your honour to kick that donkey back again?” That speech looks like a noble one, but yet it is too much flavoured with contempt. When you speak, or even think, of another who has wronged you as though he were only worthy to be regarded as a beast, you are not right in spirit, a degree of evil remains in your heart. Think of the offender without contempt, as well as without resentment. Believe that he is a brother worth winning. Say, “If he does me an injury, for that very reason I will do him a double service. My only vengeance shall be double love. I will not allow myself even to think harshly of him. I will put the best possible construction on all that he does, and so show that the spirit of Christ is in me, conquering the spirit of fallen humanity both in me and in him.”
26. One says, “If we always overlook offences other people may be tempted to do wrong to us also.” Our text furnishes us with a ready answer to this also. The Lord Jesus Christ forgave you. Have you met anyone who has been tempted to do wrong because the Lord has forgiven you? He has freely forgiven myriads of poor unworthy sinners, and has that promoted sin? No. Is it not the very foundation and reason for holiness in the world, that Jesus is so gracious as to pardon sin? Why then should your forbearance do harm? Do not pretend to be so very wise; for in it you censure your Master. You are not the ruler of the world. It is not for you to be refraining from good for fear that evil may come from it: attend to your own ways, forgive every brother his trespasses, and leave the consequences with God.
27. “Oh, but,” one says, “I know several pious people who are very unforgiving.” You do not know any really good man who is of that character. I am bold to say that no man is really good if he does not have a forgiving spirit. Unwillingness to forgive is a grievous flaw in anyone’s character. But if there were such good people, what have you to do with them? Is the servant to imitate his fellow servant, especially in his faults? The example set before you is, “Even as Christ forgave you.” You have nothing to do with either saints or sinners in this matter; your Lord says to you, “What is that to you? Follow me.” Perhaps you do not know all the story which you think proves that a good man has been unforgiving; and if you do know it, you are no judge of others. Mind your own business, and “even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.”
28. But I hear another one saying, “These people would not have forgiven me.” Just so; but then you are a child of God, you are “elect, holy, and beloved.” You are not to lower your standard to that of tax collectors and sinners. Does not Christ continually say, “What do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors and the sinners do the same?” “If you love those who love you, what thanks have you?” But if you love those who despitefully use you, then blessed are you when men shall persecute you. In that case you have an opportunity of showing your love for your Lord. When Dr. Duff first read to some young Brahmins in the Government school the precept, “Love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who despitefully use you,” one of the Brahmins cried out with delight, “Beautiful! Beautiful! This must have come from the true God. I have been told to love those who love me, and I have not always done that: but to love my enemies is a divine thought.” That young man became a Christian under the influence of that precept. Do not darken this light, but be sure to display it in your life, so that many may be attracted to Christ by its lustre. Let your goodwill go out even to the worst of men, for Christ’s sake. Forget their evil as you behold his goodness.
29. “Well,” says one, “I would forgive the fellow, but he does not deserve it.” That is why you are to forgive him: if he deserved it, you would be bound to do him the justice which he could claim; but since he does not deserve it, you have here an appeal to your Christian love. Does not your heavenly Father give good things to the unthankful and to the evil? Did not Jesus forgive the undeserving when he forgave you? Does he not overlook our wretched characters when he has mercy upon us?
30. I hear one say, “I cannot forgive!” That is a terrible confession. The apostle of the Gentiles said, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Is not the same strength available for you? Some people find forgiving and forgetting to be hard work; but since you are bound to do it or stay out of heaven, you must cry to God for help, and set about it with determination. If you are indeed a child of God you will soon find the difficulty gone; indeed forgiveness will become easy for you. To be forgiven is such sweetness that honey is tasteless in comparison with it; but yet there is one thing sweeter still, and that is to forgive. Just as it is more blessed to give than to receive, so to forgive rises a stage higher in experience than to be forgiven. To be forgiven is, as it were, the root; to forgive is the flower. That divine Spirit, who bears witness with our spirit when he breathes peace into us because we are pardoned, bears an even higher witness with us when he enables us truly to pardon all manner of trespasses against ourselves. Let it never be said in a Christian church, that fellow members bear a grudge against each other. I do not know that it is so in your case; assuredly it should not be so anywhere. Let it not be said of any Christian man, that he is unloving, ready to take offence, apt to bear malice, or quick to anger. Cultivate forbearance until your heart yields a fine crop of it. Pray for a short memory concerning all unkindnesses. I bless God that I know a man who finds it easy to forgive and to forget all offences against himself. He takes no credit for doing so, for no one ever offends him in a way which is worth remembering. That man has been reminded again and again of the misbehaviour of unreasonable and unkind men, and he has honestly said, “I had quite forgotten it,” he does not claim this forgetfulness as a virtue, for as a matter of fact his memory has become weak in that direction, and he has no desire to strengthen it. He has never tried to remember unkindnesses, and now by long disuse his memory happily fails him upon such matters. That man has often enjoyed exquisite pleasure in doing good for those who have injured him; and he can truly say that at this moment he bears no ill will to any soul on this earth. He does not think this to be any exceptional attainment, for his belief is that every follower of Jesus should be of the same mind.
31.
Do you not think the same? I am sure I do. I heard this man once say
of another, “He spoke against me what was false, but if he had known
more about me, he might have said something far worse, and have been
nearer the truth. Perhaps my false accuser believed what he said, and
thought he was doing a right thing in protesting against what he
thought was my fault. At any rate, no one can harm my character,
unless I do so myself.” It is a wise thing to profit from every
accusation, whether true or false, by trying to be better. Let us
so live as to be able to say, “I am as much at peace with all men as
a new-born child.” By this we shall wear the mark of the Spirit of
God. In a word, my brethren, “Even us Christ forgave you, so you also
must do.” Amen.
[Portion Of Scripture Read Before Sermon — Mt 18]
{See Spurgeon_Hymnal “Spirit of the Psalms — Psalm 30” 30}
{See Spurgeon_Hymnal “God the Father, Attributes of God — A Pardoning God” 202}
{See Spurgeon_Hymnal “Jesus Christ, Sufferings and Death — ‘I, If I Be Lifted Up, Will Draw All Men To Me’ ” 293}
Spirit of the Psalms
Psalm 30
1 I will exalt thee, Lord of hosts,
For thou’st exalted me;
Since thou hast silenced Satan’s boasts,
I’ll therefore boast in thee.
2 My sins had brought me near the grave,
The grave of black despair;
I look’d, but there was none to save
Till I look’d up in prayer.
3 In answer to my piteous cries,
From hell’s dark brink I’m brought:
My Jesus saw me from the skies,
And swift salvation wrought.
4 All through the night I wept full sore,
But morning brought relief;
That hand, which broke my bones before
Then broke my bonds of grief.
5 My mourning he to dancing turns,
For sackcloth joy he gives,
A moment, Lord, thine anger burns,
But long thy favour lives.
6 Sing with me, then, ye favour’d men,
Who long have known his grace;
With thanks recall the seasons when
Ye also sought his face.
Charles H. Spurgeon, 1866.
God the Father, Attributes of God
202 — A Pardoning God <112th.>
1 Great God of wonders! all thy ways
Are matchless, God-like, and divine;
But the fair glories of thy grace
More God-like and unrivall’d shine:
Who is a pardoning God like thee?
Or who has grace so rich and free?
2 Crimes of such horror to forgive,
Such guilty, daring worms to spare;
This is thy grand prerogative,
And none shall in the honour share:
Who is a pardoning God like thee?
Or who has grace so rich and free?
3 In wonder lost, with trembling joy
We take the pardon of our God;
Pardon for crimes of deepest dye;
A pardon bought with Jesus’ blood:
Who is a pardoning God like thee?
Or who has grace so rich and free?
4 Oh may this strange, this matchless grace
This God-like miracle of love,
Fill the wide earth with grateful praise,
And all th’ angelic choirs above:
Who is a pardoning God like thee?
Or who has grace so rich and free?
President Davies, 1769.
Jesus Christ, Sufferings and Death
293 — “I, If I Be Lifted Up, Will Draw All Men To Me”
1 Behold th’ amazing sight,
The Saviour lifted high!
Behold the Son of God’s delight,
Expire in agony!
2 For whom, for whom, my heart,
Were all these sorrows borne?
Why did he feel that piercing smart,
And meet that various scorn?
3 For love of us he bled,
And all in torture died:
‘Twas love that bow’d his fainting head,
And oped his gushing side.
4 I see, and I adore,
In sympathy of love:
I feel the strong attractive power,
To lift my soul above.
5 Drawn by such cords as these,
Let all the earth combine
With cheerful ardour to confess
The energy divine.
6 In thee our hearts unite,
Nor share thy grief alone,
But from thy cross pursue their flight
To thy triumphant throne.
Philip Doddridge, 1755, a.
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