Heidi St. John: Talking to Our Kids About the Sexual Revolution

One of my favorite podcasts is “The Busy Mom” with Heidi St. John. I love Heidi’s quick wit and conversational style. She is very down to earth and realistic about the highs and lows of being a mom and wife who also has a career. Heidi has a very active speaking and writing ministry and homeschools her children too! She has a real heart to see women encouraged and equipped to “get off the bench and onto the battlefield” and fight for the hearts and minds of their children. I asked Heidi to speak at this year’s Answers for Women conference on the topic of talking to our children about the sexual revolution. Below is an expert from one of her blog posts that I think will give you a good taste of what to expect from this dynamic speaker.

I have five daughters, two sons, and two grandsons. If they ever believe they are not the gender that they were assigned by their Creator, I will not add insult to their emotional and mental confusion by lying to them. That’s exactly what we’re doing to our kids today: we’re lying to them. It’s a flat-out lie that I can be a man if I want to be. Ask Mr. Jenner. He is trying to be a woman, but his DNA will not be mocked: he is not a woman. He is a sick, confused man.

I have come to the place as a mother and grandmother where I feel it is imperative to urge parents to stop lying to their children in the name of “tolerance.” We are doing far more harm than good. I’m going to tell my children the truth. If they are born girls, that’s what they are. I want them to celebrate the DNA they were born with.

Years ago, a girl I love very much was diagnosed with anorexia. She was beautiful. A slight-framed girl, she weighed around 110 lbs. when she was healthy. But when she looked in the mirror, that’s not what she saw. She saw an obese, ugly girl. She began to binge and purge. She suffered a dramatic weight loss—because her “reality” was not real. Her mind was lying to her about who she was. Do you know what? No one lied to her about it. No one encouraged her to keep starving herself. Instead, we gently told her the truth until she believed it again.

We even fed her against her will at times and no one, I mean NO ONE called me “anorexiphobic” because I chose to tell my friend that she was not fat; she was devastatingly thin. A lie would have killed her.

This idea of gender-neutrality is hurting our kids in the same way that we would have hurt my friend if we had lied to her about her illness. Was she mad when we told her she needed to eat? YES! She screamed and yelled because she had to be accompanied to the bathroom to keep her from throwing up. She said we hated her. She said we were lying—but the truth was that her own mind was lying to her.

It took bold truth to begin to heal the bold lie that was being perpetuated against my friend by the disease we call anorexia. And the idea of gender-neutrality is also a bold lie. Like all lies from the devil, the lie that there is such a thing as “gender neutrality” is in direct opposition to the obvious way we have been created. God’s Word is clear on the issue of sexuality. We have been created as “male” and “female.”

“So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” Genesis 1:27

Bold lies can only be countered with bold truth. A spirit called “Fear” is driving our decisions as parents, and the longer we listen to the lies and act in fear, the darker this nation will become.

Telling your children the truth about their DNA is not only healthy and good, it is necessary in the current culture we are living in. A small minority has hijacked the culture and we have let it happen, because we are a fearful and unwise generation.

If we do not stand and speak the truth, lies will become the reality that our children operate in. That’s a reality I wouldn’t wish on anyone, especially my grandchildren.

(excerpt from, “The Lie of “Gender-Neutrality” and Why I’m Telling my Children the Truth About Their DNA,” January 12, 2016)

WOW! I appreciate Heidi’s bold stand on the truth of God’s Word and can’t wait to see what she has to share with us. I encourage you to read the whole post here. I was privileged a few months ago to be interviewed on Heidi’s podcast and we literally could have talked for hours! You can listen to the podcast here.

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Keep fighting the good fight of the faith!